Most teenagers, young adults, or adults try to hide when they are mad at someone. They hope the problem will just go away or the person they are mad at will simply acknowledge their feelings. When the person does not acknowledge they are upset the anger often builds, which ultimately leads to a larger fight. A lot of people cannot admit they were wrong during a fight, are ashamed to apologize, and do not want to back down. These are all things which typically lead to holding a grudge against someone. What do grudges really do anyway? In my experiences it just makes running into those people stressful and that much more awkward. Who really wants that?
My advice... be a little childish. It's OK to become upset or mad at someone. That's part of life. However, do not expect the other person to read your mind and know exactly why you became upset. Humans make mistakes and deserve a little slack here and there. The little kids I work with are able to run up and tell their friends and teachers immediately what is wrong. So - be sincere with the person and tell them what's up. Don't be afraid to admit that you know you're mad for a little reason. People get annoyed by these things everyday and that is OK. But if you let it build the problem and your reaction and become out of control. That is NOT OK and just makes you look like a little crazy to be worked up after something so little. Don't play the blame game or be the "rule police" (as my supervisor states)... no one wants to hear that. Just state why you feel mad and go from there. Remember that sometimes we are at fault and need to apologize. It takes a far stronger person to step up, admit he or she was wrong, and apologize.
You do not have to be friends with everyone - but should be civil. Keep an open mind and people will surprise you.
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